Over at Mindlovemisery’s Menagerie Friday Faithfuls, Jim Adams has asked us about the inevitably of our own deaths. I am praying that the end of my life is not coming soon. But, I am also a realist.
1) Do you hate talking about your death and are you planning to postpone all the decisions and leave them up to somebody else? I procrastinated for years before finally getting my living trust completed. I thought I knew what I wanted. Once I found out my diagnoses, I went full steam ahead to get everything sorted out. “Just in case,” I had everything finalized and notarized before going in for surgery last month.
2) Have you made any arrangements that will determine what you would want to happen when you die? My spouse and my cousin know I want to be cremated.
3) If you can no longer take care of yourself, would you like to live in a nursing home or receive in-home care from a caregiver? If at all possible, I would rather stay at home.
4) Do you have a will, and do you know how you want your assets to be distributed? Thankfully, the paralegal sent me a questionnaire before my in-person appointment. I made my decisions in the privacy of my own home. Everything is spelled out quite clearly in my living trust.
5) If you have pets, have you figured out what will happen to them? My spouse will exclusively own Annie.
6) Do you have life insurance, and do you think it is enough to take care of your final expenses? Before I retired, I paid into a life insurance policy for five years. There will be no expenses for anyone else to pay.
7) Do you want a big funeral? I do not want a funeral at all. If my kids want to do a celebration of life after the dust settles, that is their prerogative.
8) Have you decided where you will be buried, or if you want to be cremated, or if you are donaing your body to science? I’d like my ashes spread at the beach. That way, I will be one with the place that gives me peace. Constantly moved around the earth seems perfect to me.
9) Will you be writing your own eulogy? No funeral = no eulogy