Throwback Thursday #49 – First Dating Experiences

Welcome back to Throwback Thursday. I am here again to provide a prompt to jog your memory. We’ve talked about first crushes so it’s only logical to wonder about actual dates. When you think back to your “first dates,” do you cringe or smile?  Whatever age you started dating, it was sure to have been an exciting step into being a grown-up. First dates can be awkward, nerve-wracking, exciting, disastrous, wonderful or any number of things. When you start dating, it is usually to find someone who you enjoy spending time with. Then dating becomes more about finding someone you connect with and care about; someone who makes you happy and who you can make happy in return.

If you care to join us, it’s easy.

  • Write your own post sharing your memories and leave a pingback to this post in the comments.
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  • Tag it with #TBTMemory or #IRememberWhen.
  • If you do not wish to write your own post, feel free to tell your story in the comments below.

This week’s prompt is: Your First Dating Experiences
You can use the questions as is or write your own experiences incorporating those that fit for you.

1) On your very first date, did you do the asking, or were you asked out?
2) Were you typically stressed out before a first date? Did things seem to be easier the more you dated the same person?
3) What did you do to prepare for the date? Did you wear new clothes, or special outfits?
4) How did you meet those first dates? Were your dates with friends of a family member, or friends of a friend?
5) Did you have a curfew on those early dates? Did you typically arrive home on time or were you constantly breaking curfew?
6) Did your parents insist on meeting whomever you dated?
7) Where did you usually go when on a date? (movies, concerts, picnics, etc.)
8) Did the boy/man always pay for the date or did you go Dutch treat?
9) Were you typically the talker or the listener on a date?
10) What did you do if the date clearly wasn’t going well? (feign a headache, ask to go home, end the date early, etc.)
11) A connection from the past to the present, if applicable. How long did you date your current partner before marriage?
12) Bonus Question: Care to share a disasters first date??????

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On my very first “date” I was asked if I wanted to go to a movie. The guy was a neighbor. I don’t think I ever asked out anyone on a first date. If we had been dating for a while, I might make plans for a future date though. I was always nervous before a first date. (not that I had that many) With the few guys I dated multiple times, I was much calmer after the initial date.

I dated guys I knew from school, my neighborhood, and friends of my girlfriends. I never went out with someone I did not know at all. I was definitely too chicken for that. My girlfriend in high school, had numerous cousins that were “to die for.” I almost went out on a date with one of them. Truthfully though, after spending an afternoon hanging out with him, I knew his looks were all he had going for him.

When I first started dating, I would try on numerous outfits to see what felt right. That was my habit to calm myself whenever I was nervous. I knew that no matter how long I knew someone, this was a different interaction and I wanted to feel as comfortable as I could.

I had no real curfew because my mom came home from work at about 3 AM. She might have told me when to come home, but I knew I could do whatever I pleased. I always told my date a curfew to see how he respected my boundaries. I don’t remember my mom ever asking to meet my dates. I was not so easy going with my own daughters.

Going to the movies was always a typical date in my teens. Drive in movies were only with a guy I knew well. “Passion pits” were not for a date with someone you didn’t know well. Going out for a meal before or after meant the guy wasn’t a cheapskate. LOL. I never paid for a date until I started dating my first husband. We went out for a year before we got married. I would plan some of our dates before we got engaged. If I planned it, I insisted on paying for it.

If I didn’t know my date well, I was the listener. If I knew them as a friend already, it was much more of a mutual sharing experience. I have a great ability to listen to someone and know if they are being honest or not. I don’t think I have ever had a date so bad that I asked to go home early. If I decided it was not a good match, I’d just not go out with them again.

A crazy date I had many moons ago was with a guy I knew from high school. He was friends with my friend’s fiancé. We knew each other fairly well as school friends. I was honestly surprised about him asking me out. He had a VW bug and it died in the middle of the street when we crossed a puddle. He tried to ask me if I wanted to help push the car in the rain. I cut him off with a “hell no.” The date didn’t get much better after that. I was impressed that he sold a few greeting card ideas to Hallmark. I was less than impressed with his paid job of inseminating cows on a nearby dairy farm. Oy vey.

41 thoughts on “Throwback Thursday #49 – First Dating Experiences

  1. funny that you mention talker/listener. I’ve heard a common criticism of men is that they talk about themselves too much, so that made me very wary about dominating the conversation. But with the good dates, that all became irrelevant because conversation just flowed naturally.
    With the bad dates it soon went quiet anyway 🙂

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  2. I love that you told your date a curfew to see how he respected your boundaries. It sounds like you made good decisions. Better than some of mine. It took me years to learn how to do the boundary thing right.

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