Fandango’s Provocative Question – Fight, flight, or freeze


Fandango’s Provocative Question  today is about whether to confront or ignore something that bothers you.



When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?

In my personal experience the answer to this question depends on what the offense is and who the offender is. It is better to ignore something you know will not change if discussed. If the offense disturbs you too greatly, you must discuss it or it will eat away at your relationship.

With my adult children, I try to hold my boundaries for my sanity. With a significant other, once you have have stated the concern, if they don’t respond you have the choice of fight or flight.   

If a friend does something that hurts you, it is almost always better to discuss it. For me, those are usually just misunderstandings that can be rectified more easily.


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